Books are the most accessible and affordable resource available. I have compiled a list of books I have read and recommend. I also have taken recommendations from other professionals for some suggestions. I will continue to add to this as I discover more.
General
The Guide to Getting it On by Paul Joannides
The Erotic Mind: Unlocking Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin
Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
The Conscious Sexual Self Workbook by Melissa Fritchle
Secrets of the Sex Masters by Carl Frankel (writter and editor) with many other authors
Female focused resources
Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon
Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston
Woman on Fire by Amy Jo Goddard
Sex Matters for Women: A Complete Guide to Taking Care of Your Sexual Self by Sallie Foley
The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us by Felice Newman
Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner
Healing Painful Sex: A Woman’s Guide to Confronting, Diagnosing, and Treating Sexual Pain by Deborah Coady and Nancy Fish
Reviving Sex Life after Childbirth: Your Guide to Pain-free and Pleasurable Sex after the Baby by Kathy Wallace
Male focused resources
The New Male Sexuality by Bernie Zilbergeld
Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence Enjoy Great Sex by Barry McCarthy and Michael Metz
Coping with Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Please Your Partner & Have Great Sex by Barry McCarthy and Michael Metz
Relationships and Intamacy
Making Love Real: The Intelligent Couple’s Guide to Lasting Intimacy and Passion by Daneille Harel and Celeste Hirschman
Intimacy and Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship by David Schnarch
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Your Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage by Laurie Watson
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
The New Monogamy: Redefining your Relationship after Infidelity by Tammy Nelson
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert
Senior Sex
Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex by Joan Price
The Hot Guide to a Cool Sexy Menopause: Nurse Barb’s Practical Advice & Real-Life Solutions for a Smooth Transition by Barb Dehn
Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty by Joan Price
Non-Monogamy, Open, Poly relationships
Check out my Polyamory/Open Relationship page.
BDSM and Kink
The New Topping Book by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
The New Bottoming Book by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman
Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes: A Step-by-Step, Illustrated Guide… by Two Knotty Boys
The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge edited by Tristan Taormino
Books for Sex Therapy
Quickies: The Handbook of Brief Sex Therapy by Shelley K. Green
Systemic Sex Therapy edited by Katherine M. Hertlein, Gerald R. Weeks, and Nancy Gambescia
Principles and Practice of Sex Therapy edited by Yitzchak M. Binik and Kathryn S. K. Hall
Sexual Trauma
The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Wendy Maltz
Survivors Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse by Staci Haines
Coming Home to Passion: Restoring Loving Sexuality in Couples with Histories of Childhood Trauma and Neglect by Ruth Cohn
Sex with Disabilities or Illness
The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain and Illness by Kaufman, Silverberg and Odette
Sexual Function in People with Disability and Chronic Illness by Sipski and Alexander
Sexuality for the Woman With Cancer by American Cancer Society
Sexuality for the Man with Cancer by American Cancer Society
Talking about Sex with Kids
Sex is a Funny Word by Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth
What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth
It’s NOT the Stork! by Robie Harris and Michael Emberly
It’s So Amazing! by Robie Harris and Michael Emberly
It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex and Sexual Health by Robie Harris and Michael Emberly
I am Jazz by Jessica Hershel
Changing Bodies Changing Lives: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships by Ruth Bell
From Diapers to Dating: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Sexually Health Children – From Infancy to Middle School by Debra Haffner